tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4874126491212835436.post2437761253898620965..comments2023-05-27T23:19:41.224+08:00Comments on Outside The Lines: One step forward two steps backwardJanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01728584891511905889noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4874126491212835436.post-33846897879656283432012-03-24T15:01:41.700+08:002012-03-24T15:01:41.700+08:00Jan, those backward step days are so downheartenin...Jan, those backward step days are so downheartening aren't they. Just keep up the chats and the posts, you know it all takes time and a hard time at that. We are all here for you should you need anything. Sending you strength to help you climb back up that ladder and head towards the sunlight again.<br />HugsDebhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12148435873937023913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4874126491212835436.post-84169768381054584252012-03-21T12:21:25.294+08:002012-03-21T12:21:25.294+08:00Thanks for that SFG. I know you understand as you ...Thanks for that SFG. I know you understand as you truly get what I am experiencing and why. I think I will try to minimise the outside chatter from every direction and my own negative self talk. I am scared, but will need to calm myself as this matter does not have to be scary, it can be daunting, but I shouldn't be afraid. I am off to walk to the sink. :)Janhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01728584891511905889noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4874126491212835436.post-41035879872283837192012-03-21T12:14:59.366+08:002012-03-21T12:14:59.366+08:00None of us ever have perfect control (I know I don...None of us ever have perfect control (I know I don't!), nor do I believe humans should strive for such. I always try to find control in tiny doses throughout the day and not focus too much on the big picture. It's not about not eating this or that. It's about waiting 5 minutes to eat it or eating less of it than I absolutely want to eat. Sometimes, I manage. Sometimes, I don't. <br /><br />I don't know if anything I say will help you, but I would encourage you to focus on the behaviors, not the outcomes of those behaviors. Standing up and walking across the room and back once an hour three or four times a day or leaving one bite on the plate was where I started. The thing about these things is that they were my choices and my accomplishments. I didn't feel like a child because I decided what to do and when to do it.<br /><br />I know how you feel and it's because someone is putting a gun to your head health-wise. How can you make changes and feel like you are the one in charge when people are saying you have to do these things or you will die? I say, set all of that aside and focus on quality of life, which is much more important. Also, focus on the notion of mastering yourself and understanding yourself. Health improvements will be a potential outcome of these changes, but you cannot control your health directly so I'd say focus on controlling what you can and framing your successes as mastery of your mind. In no way am I saying this is easy (it's harder than many people can imagine), but just that it's a road on a long and arduous path.<br /><br />As always, my very best to you and I'm pulling for you!screaming fatgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09556199963917842135noreply@blogger.com